Girlhood

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God has a direction for you.  You’re not just this little unimportant dot in the world, you were appointed by God to have life, and to live in this world.  Think of how much impact one human being can have on the world.  You can take the life given to you from God and make something of it, even being young – as Proverbs 20:11 points out, “Even a child is known by his actions, by whether his conduct is pure and right.”

You are young, but it is to children that God has given the purest, simplest spirit of faith.

But what is  “girlhood” really?  How should these years affect you?  How should you affect them?

It seems like nowdays when you meet an average 10 or 11 year old girl, you are probably going to meet one that is just now beginning to form what is known as an “ego”.  By the time they turn 12 (very important age, it seems, the age before the teens – the TWEEN age.) they move “on to better things”.  A 12 year old caught playing with a doll would be almost considered “blasphemy” to these minature pop-culture tween queens that seem to be showing up all over the place.  It’s all about being “mature” (which takes growing), putting yesterday behind you, jewelry and a “dab” of makeup, being pretty and thin – and taking a keen interest in men – whoops, I mean – boys.  It’s all about picking favorite tv shows, picking a favorite singer, and yes, picking a celebrity crush.  You’re pretty much accomplished and on the brink of being a REAL teenager if you can checkmark all of those previously mentioned “essentials”.

Oh yes, and also talking about mom and dad behind their backs. Very important.  If you don’t, you are living the pushover life, and have nothing to rebel against.  Yes, if you are capable of all those things, then this is the pat on the back, the accolades of entering adolescence.  It means you’re slowly transforming and becoming the thing known as… “the teenager”.

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But when you take the glamor and glitz away from this otherwise innocent age – What is really there?  How is girlhood an important factor for the rest of your life?  What makes it special?

The time that is invested in your childhood and emerging teen years are actually very important.  Though you may not realize it, you store the memories of your girlhood in your brain, and it sheds a different light to your identity.  There will be times when you’re hurting, sad, and upset at someone when you’re young, that never fades away.  Even if you forget all the details with that terrible argument you had with your mom years ago, it still somehow will haunt you later, because you will remember the feeling of it.  You might forget every word said, but the feeling it imprinted on you will last forever.

It is SO good to build up a strong relationship with your parents, and really, any other friend/relative in your life.  You will never have regrets building a good relationship with your mom and dad, but you will if you never give it a try.
Rifts in the bond between girls and their moms and dads are so common today, and it’s sad.  They are HERE for you, God put them HERE for you!  Never talking to them and arguing all the time with them will never result in anything but long term strife and hatred.

But is this how God designed these days of your life to be?

In the world today, childhood has become dumbed down.  The concept of “girlhood” has been even moreso dumbed down – the entire image of the purpose of a woman is distorted.  Girls don’t know who they NEED to be.  What they are trying to be.  There is no aim, there is no goal.  Culture today is the most warped, and unbiblical it has probably ever been.  The definition and picture of a “family” is so broken and fragmented, there’s not going to be much for the generations to come to salvage from.  It’s sad that it’s entirely normal for parents and their kids to live in the same house yet never see much of each other, or know much about each other at all.  That’s why today, young ladies have a battle in front of them. The entire Christian lifestyle is so under fire.

But it might be good to know this: What the media says, what you see in all those godless magazines, tv shows and celebrities,  is not truth.  Not God’s truth and love.  When you have a problem, bring it to God, and He’ll take care of it.  Don’t seek all the world has to offer you, because it doesn’t offer the most important gift God has freely given to us – Jesus, and our eternal life.  If you make Jesus your #1, you’re never going to regret it.  Isn’t that awesome?

So it is in your girlhood days where your lifestyle becomes important.  Where purity comes in.  What you think when you’re young, will stick with your even when you’re older.

So…while you’re in the bliss of girlhood days, you still have a lot to look out for.

But there are SO many good things about being a young girl.  At this time in life you can relax and just be happy with the way God has made you.  It’s funny though when I overhear pre-teens saying “Oh, I wish I was a little kid again so I wouldn’t have to do this ‘n that.” Oh boy.  I’m like “Waaah? You shouldn’t even be old enough to be saying something like that!”

So while you’re young, in this stage of life – praise God for it.  I know that sounds silly, but just praising the Lord and embracing in the blessings He has given you right now, will do a lot for you.   Take moments in the day to really do that. Worried, upset?  Just  talk to God.   He’s listening 24/7, don’t ever be afraid to pray and talk to God about things on your heart.  Talk to God like you would your parents, or close friends.  Truth is,  He’s the closest friend you’ve got, and will ever have.

Find happiness in His Word!  Here are some sweet verses you should keep close to your heart -

“Delight yourself also in the LORD,
And He shall give you the desires of your heart.
Commit your way to the LORD,
Trust also in Him,
And He shall bring it to pass.” – Psalm 37:4-5

“Remember also your Creator in the days of your youth, before the evil days come and the years draw near when you will say, ‘I have no delight in them’”- Ecclesiastes 12:1

“Nevertheless, I will remember My covenant with you in the days of your youth, and I will establish an everlasting covenant with you.” – Ezekiel 16:60

“O God, You have taught me from my youth,
And I still declare Your wondrous deeds.” - Psalm 71:17