Pure Love
People often confuse physical affection with love. The fact is, love isn’t all about whether your boyfriend kisses you or not. That really doesn’t mean a thing. In fact, a guy who takes the responsibility to not take what really isn’t his, is a pretty noble guy. Unfortunately, you don’t see too many of those guys around…
Truth is, it seems like girls discourage this noble character in a guy. You’re labeled a wimp if you don’t possess this passionate form of…”love”.
It’s sad that today in order to “prove” that you love someone you have to take it to the next level. You have to give into your weaknesses, not overcome them – or it’s not really “love”. But that’s obviously not true.
People get the idea that it’s love because you’re giving a special part of yourself away, and they think that if you don’t, you don’t care for them, and aren’t willing to love them. But, no, no, no – This isn’t true.
What do you think God’s standards of love are?
“Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails.” [1 Corinthians 13:4-8]
Think of how that statement of love found in 1 Corinthians 13 can be applied to a relationship you have with a guy.
Think about it, it really can.
It is so tempting to get carried away with someone, to take things too far.
Though temptation isn’t easy, there is no temptation before us that is too hard for us to resist.
Remember what it says in James:
“Blessed is the man who endures temptation; for when he has been approved, he will receive the crown of life which the Lord has promised to those who love Him.” [James 1:12]
Isn’t this more than anything the world can offer? It’s hard to imagine that it is, especially in present circumstances. But imagine how in the long run the actions you make NOW will affect you later. Do you want to eventually be hurt from something you can avoid now? Do you want to risk that?
If we love God, if we truly are committed to Him – we CAN withstand any temptation that comes our way. He is promising us crowns of life, and we’d rather give into our fleshly temptations?
Remember when it says in 1 Corinthians 13 that “Love isn’t self-seeking,”? If you are making decisions based on your own pleasure and wants, it’s selfish and it’s not love. There’s no way to justify it, it is what it is. So, instead of justifying temptations and sins, set your path straight while you can.
If the guy you love is pressuring you into doing things you don’t want to, he’s only trying to fulfill his own selfish desires. And that…is not love.
People now days have dumbed down what love really is. It’s not this hollywoodized definition of “lustful passion”. It’s much more than that. And when you find it in your relationship, you won’t ever pursue the downright impatient and impure way of handling things. Because then, it won’t matter as much.
So what should you do to pursue a pure relationship with that really cool guy you know?
Pursue patience, kindness, unselfishness. If you ever learn to nail those three important factors, you’ve got yourself a God-approved relationship.
You can prove you love someone through your words, through your actions. Through the way you talk to them everyday and think about them. There are so many other ways of truly reflecting what you feel deep inside about a person, other than taking it the tempting, ungodly ways.
Think about what you really like about this person. You didn’t first like them because of the way they displayed their passion for you. You liked them for their character, for their good qualities. Why not keep it that way? Why not keep things in check, so you don’t ever have to suffer the consequences of bad decisions? You won’t have to endure a bitter painful breakup or bad memories if you keep your romance pure and God-centered. In fact, you might not even have to go through the whole breakup experience.
And if anything ever does go wrong, and you end up alone in the end – don’t forget about God. He’s the one that’s writing your love story every day, and is leading you the way you should go. Turn to Him, because He’s there for you.
He’s always going to be there, even when your friends and family are not. It’s easy to forget that, when your alone, because when you’re alone, it’s hard to get past yourself and your troubles. Cause that’s really all that’s there, right, when you’re alone? Not when you have God.
Though other people do, God will NEVER leave you nor forsake you. [Hebrews 13:5]
With true love, comes respect. If you truly want to live in a pure, God-inspired relationship with someone, you should treat them with the respect that God would have for you to keep. You’re never going to regret making an effort to do the right thing in God’s eyes. The best way to show your true affection for a person is to respect them as a person and to keep selfishness and desires out – and purity in.
As people, it’s only natural for us to seek a more physical, intimate relationship with eachother. You see girlfriends and boyfriends everywhere taking advantage of the whole concept of “being together” and loving each other. But one day, this “love” is going to get old in your eyes. You will change, and seek new, different things…
If your heart in the relationship is only satisfied through intimacy and the feeling of “being loved”, then it’s really not love. No, you’re robbing of someone of something. You’re taking advantage, and not loving them truly with your heart, and you’re not respecting them. You are only keeping things up for yourself and the sake of your feelings and happiness.
